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  COSMIC LOVE

  A Bantam Book / January 2008

  Published by Bantam Dell

  A Division of Random House, Inc.

  New York, New York

  All rights reserved

  Copyright © 2008 by Jan Spiller

  Astrological glyphs by Kerry Tinney

  Bantam Books and the rooster colophon are registered trademarks of Random House, Inc.

  Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

  Spiller, Jan.

  Cosmic love : secrets of the astrology of intimacy revealed / Jan Spiller.

  p. cm.

  1. Astrology. 2. Love—Miscellanea. 3. Intimacy (Psychology)—Miscellanea. I. Title.

  BF1729.L6S65 2008

  133.5'81582—dc22

  2007038369

  randomhousebooks.com

  Ebook ISBN: 9780553904505

  v3.0_r2

  CONTENTS

  Title Page

  Copyright

  The Location of Your North Node

  Introduction

  Essential Information

  Part I: THE SIGNS

  Bringing Out the Best in Love Relationships

  ARIES NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  TAURUS NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  GEMINI NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  CANCER NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  LEO NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  VIRGO NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  LIBRA NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  SCORPIO NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  SAGITTARIUS NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  CAPRICORN NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  AQUARIUS NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  PISCES NORTH NODE PEOPLE

  How Others Can Help Them Heal

  Part II: THE HOUSES

  Destiny’s Gifts

  Introduction to the Houses

  RECEIVING LOVE: GIFTS YOUR PARTNER BRINGS YOU

  THEIR North Node falls in your:

  1ST HOUSE

  2ND HOUSE

  3RD HOUSE

  4TH HOUSE

  5TH HOUSE

  6TH HOUSE

  7TH HOUSE

  8TH HOUSE

  9TH HOUSE

  10TH HOUSE

  11TH HOUSE

  12TH HOUSE

  GIVING LOVE: GIFTS YOU BRING TO YOUR PARTNER

  YOUR North Node falls in their:

  1ST HOUSE

  2ND HOUSE

  3RD HOUSE

  4TH HOUSE

  5TH HOUSE

  6TH HOUSE

  7TH HOUSE

  8TH HOUSE

  9TH HOUSE

  10TH HOUSE

  11TH HOUSE

  12TH HOUSE

  Part III: THE ASPECTS

  Navigating the Energy of Past Life Connections

  Information on the Aspects

  NORTH NODE CONJUNCTIONS

  People Who Help Along the Way

  Sun

  Moon

  Mercury

  Venus

  Mars

  Jupiter

  Saturn

  Uranus

  Neptune

  Pluto

  Chiron

  Ascendant

  Midheaven

  North Node

  South Node

  SOUTH NODE CONJUNCTIONS

  Past Life Contracts

  Sun

  Moon

  Mercury

  Venus

  Mars

  Jupiter

  Saturn

  Uranus

  Neptune

  Pluto

  Chiron

  The Double Conjunction

  THE COMPOSITE CHART

  Conclusion

  Dedication

  Acknowledgments

  Also by Jan Spiller

  About the Author

  VISIT WWW.COSMICLOVE.COM

  THE LOCATION OF YOUR NORTH NODE

  Locate the span that includes your birth date in the chart below. Your North Node position is listed to the right of these dates.

  May 10, 1899–Jan. 21, 1901….. Sagittarius

  Jan. 22, 1901–July 21, 1902….. Scorpio

  July 22, 1902–Jan. 15, 1904….. Libra

  Jan. 16, 1904–Sept. 18, 1905…. Virgo

  Sept. 19, 1905–Mar. 30, 1907…Leo

  Mar. 31, 1907–Sept. 27, 1908…Cancer

  Sept. 28, 1908–Mar. 23, 1910…Gemini

  Mar. 24, 1910–Dec. 8, 1911….. Taurus

  Dec. 9, 1911–June 6, 1913……Aries

  June 7, 1913–Dec. 3, 1914……Pisces

  Dec. 4, 1914–May 31, 1916….. Aquarius

  June 1, 1916–Feb. 13, 1918….. Capricorn

  Feb. 14, 1918–Aug. 15, 1919…. Sagittarius

  Aug. 16, 1919–Feb. 7, 1921….. Scorpio

  Feb. 8, 1921–Aug. 23, 1922….. Libra

  Aug. 24, 1922–Apr. 23, 1924…. Virgo

  Apr. 24, 1924–Oct. 26, 1925…. Leo

  Oct. 27, 1925–Apr. 16, 1927…. Cancer

  Apr. 17, 1927–Dec. 28, 1928…. Gemini

  Dec. 29, 1928–July 7, 1930….. Taurus

  July 8, 1930–Dec. 28, 1931….. Aries

  Dec. 29, 1931–June 24, 1933…. Pisces

  June 25, 1933–Mar. 8, 1935…. Aquarius

  Mar. 9, 1935–Sept. 14, 1936…. Capricorn

  Sept. 15, 1936–Mar. 3, 1938…. Sagittarius

  Mar. 4, 1938–Sept. 12, 1939…. Scorpio

  Sept. 13, 1939–May 24, 1941…Libra

  May 25, 1941–Nov. 21, 1942…. Virgo

  Nov. 22, 1942–May 11, 1944…. Leo

  May 12, 1944–Dec. 13, 1945…. Cancer

  Dec. 14, 1945–Aug. 2, 1947….. Gemini

  Aug. 3, 1947–Jan. 26, 1949….. Taurus

  Jan. 27, 1949–July 26, 1950….. Aries

  July 27, 1950–Mar. 28, 1952…. Pisces

  Mar. 29, 1952–Oct. 9, 1953…. Aquarius

  Oct. 10, 1953–Apr. 2, 1955….. Capricorn

  Apr. 3, 1955–Oct. 4, 1956……Sagittarius

  Oct. 5, 1956–June 16, 1958….. Scorpio

  June 17, 1958–Dec. 15, 1959…. Libra

  Dec. 16, 1959–June 10, 1961…. Virgo

  June 11, 1961–Dec. 23, 1962…. Leo

  Dec. 24, 1962–Aug. 25, 1964…Cancer

  Aug. 26, 1964–Feb. 19, 1966…Gemini

  Feb. 20, 1966–Aug. 19, 1967…. Taurus

  Aug. 20, 1967–Apr. 19, 1969…. Aries

  Apr. 20, 1969–Nov. 2, 1970….. Pisces

  Nov. 3, 1970–Apr. 27, 1972….. Aquarius

  Apr. 28, 1972–Oct. 27, 1973…. Capricorn

  Oct. 28, 1973–July 10, 1975….. Sagittarius

  July 11, 1975–Jan. 7, 1977……. Scorpio

  Jan. 8, 1977–July 5, 1978……. Libra

  July 6, 1978–Jan. 12, 1980……Virgo

  Jan. 13, 1980–Sept. 24, 1981…. Leo

  Sept. 25, 1981–Mar. 16, 19
83…Cancer

  Mar. 17, 1983–Sept. 11, 1984…Gemini

  Sept. 12, 1984–Apr. 6, 1986…. Taurus

  Apr. 7, 1986–Dec. 2, 1987……Aries

  Dec. 3, 1987–May 22, 1989….. Pisces

  May 23, 1989–Nov. 18, 1990…Aquarius

  Nov. 19, 1990–Aug. 1, 1992…. Capricorn

  Aug. 2, 1992–Feb. 1, 1994…... Sagittarius

  Feb. 2, 1994–July 31, 1995…... Scorpio

  Aug. 1, 1995–Jan. 25, 1997….. Libra

  Jan. 26, 1997–Oct. 20, 1998…. Virgo

  Oct. 21, 1998–Apr. 9, 2000….. Leo

  Apr. 10, 2000–Oct. 12, 2001…. Cancer

  Oct. 13, 2001–Apr. 13, 2003…. Gemini

  Apr. 14, 2003–Dec. 25, 2004…Taurus

  Dec. 26, 2004–June 21, 2006…Aries

  June 22, 2006–Dec. 18, 2007…. Pisces

  Dec. 19, 2007–Aug. 21, 2009…. Aquarius

  Aug. 22, 2009–Mar. 3, 2011…. Capricorn

  Mar. 4, 2011–Aug. 29, 2012…. Sagittarius

  Aug. 30, 2012–Feb. 18, 2014…. Scorpio

  Feb. 19, 2014–Nov. 11, 2015…. Libra

  Nov. 12, 2015–May 9, 2017….. Virgo

  May 10, 2017–Nov. 6, 2018….. Leo

  Nov. 7, 2018–May 4, 2020…... Cancer

  May 5, 2020–Jan. 18, 2022….. Gemini

  Jan. 19, 2022–July 17, 2023….. Taurus

  July 18, 2023–Jan. 11, 2025….. Aries

  Jan. 12, 2025–July 26, 2026…. Pisces

  July 27, 2026–Mar. 26, 2028…. Aquarius

  Mar. 27, 2028–Sept. 23, 2029…Capricorn

  Sept. 24, 2029–Mar. 20, 2031…Sagittarius

  Mar. 21, 2031–Dec. 1, 2032…. Scorpio

  Dec. 2, 2032–June 3, 2034….. Libra

  June 4, 2034–Nov. 29, 2035…. Virgo

  Nov. 30, 2035–May 29, 2037…Leo

  May 30, 2037–Feb. 9, 2039….. Cancer

  Feb. 10, 2039–Aug. 10, 2040…. Gemini

  Aug. 11, 2040–Feb. 3, 2042….. Taurus

  Feb. 4, 2042–Aug. 18, 2043….. Aries

  Aug. 19, 2043–Apr. 18, 2045…. Pisces

  Apr. 19, 2045–Oct. 18, 2046…. Aquarius

  Oct. 19, 2046–Apr. 11, 2048…. Capricorn

  Apr. 12, 2048–Dec. 14, 2049…. Sagittarius

  Dec. 15, 2049–June 28, 2051…. Scorpio

  INTRODUCTION

  Ultimately, all of our efforts are really motivated by our underlying belief in the possibility of relating to others in ways that consistently bring Love and intimacy into our lives. We strive to attain material things (money, possessions, etc.) in the hope that we will then be in a better position to attract love and will feel “safe” enough to allow ourselves to experience it.

  Then many of us work on understanding ourselves so we can grow to a point where we no longer sabotage our relationships through our own unconscious attitudes and behaviors. It’s as if we “know” on a deep level that somehow it is possible to reach a place where love and intimacy are ongoing experiences in our relationships with others. My motivation in writing this book sprang from my desire to play a part in the sacred opportunity to bring our daily human experience closer to that potential.

  The ideas in this book are being presented for the first time. They have emerged from more than thirty years of private readings that included active research with my clients on the effects of the nodal axis in their relationships. (See Essential Information for an explanation of the nodal axis.) It was their openness about the struggles they encountered, what they did that helped resolve them, and what behaviors and actions seemed to make things worse that gave me insight into the inner workings of the nodal groups.

  Together we discovered old, ongoing patterns that had been sabotaging their relationships, and experimented with new ways of directing the energy that could heal these blocks to intimacy that they had been experiencing. Once they could objectively see the unconscious behaviors that had been undermining them, the insight alone helped them begin to dissolve these automatic, self-defeating responses.

  Through the insights available in these pages, you can also become aware of—and choose to release—the attitudes, reactions, and behaviors that have been disrupting your relationships. By experimenting with the suggestions recommended for your specific nodal group, you can open the door to creating greater love and intimacy with those who are important to you.

  “Love,” as it is used in this book, refers to the universal flow of unconditional Loving energy that permeates the atmosphere and our own being. However, we have been trained from childhood to experience Love by compartmentalizing it on a personal level: love of family, friends, romantic love, love of children, etc. Love itself includes—and yet is bigger—than all these confining labels. We are not isolated. Love flows through us constantly, and all we need to do to experience more Love is to begin participating—in a conscious, positive way—in the exchange of giving and receiving Love with others.

  Facilitating this exchange on the highest level requires us to accept that each person who is significant in your life represents an opportunity to increase your capacity for a deeper experience of Love. By consistently choosing the highest path of true authenticity over a desired outcome in the relationship, we can actively cooperate with the process of becoming more whole and genuine, and earn the right to experience even greater exchanges of Love to satisfy and heal us.

  Astrology: A Practical Science

  Astrology is not a religion. A religion implies a certain amount of faith and trust, a belief in something intangible. Astrology is a science—a mathematical graph of your internal wiring, kind of like an X-ray of your unique psychological and emotional individuality. And like any true science, when used appropriately the knowledge it contains can lead to manifesting predictable results.

  You do not have to believe in astrology to use this book. It’s very simple and practical: Just try some of the experiments that are suggested and the results will tell you whether or not it works for you.

  Ultimately, what we all desire in our relationships is to deeply connect with the other person in a way that opens our heart—and theirs—so that an exchange of love can be experienced. And yet this is not what we usually end up creating with those who are most important to us.

  “Insanity” has been defined as doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. If we do not consciously change the way we interact with others, we will just keep experiencing a repetition of what we have already known. To change old patterns that are sabotaging our success and happiness we need to experiment with new ways to approach our partners.

  So my suggestion is that from the experiments recommended for your nodal group you choose those that resonate with you personally and try them—one at a time—until you begin to see results in the relationship involved. Don’t start imagining “down the road.” Just be willing to take that first step and see what happens.

  Recognizing Potential

  When two people come together in a relationship, the possibilities inherent in their combined energies emerge. Because everyone is unique, so is the potential that arises in each relationship. Each person will bring you a different experience of yourself.

  Many of us think we “know” what we’re looking for in a mate. However, when we long for a specific type of person, it is really a certain experience we are seeking—and we really have no idea how the person who could bring us that experience will be “packaged” on the physical level. In fact, we can be so distracted looking for someone who fits our preconceived image that we may miss out on what the Universe knows will actually make us happy. We can avoid this by being more aware of the potential for mutual growth that is actually emerging with the people Life brings our way.

  It’s also a misconception to think
that we need to have it all together in order to attract the right mate. Often it is combining with another that puts everything together. For example, a man and a woman may have less money than each thinks he/she should have, but in a relationship together the energy between them may generate a lot of money for both of them!

  When two people come together, the potential of what they can create is unique. So when considering a relationship, it’s best to give it some time so you can see what the possibilities really are. The idea is to put away your pictures of what you want it to be like so you can recognize what’s actually there. Developing a true personal love connection takes time, trust, consistency, and sincerely liking the other person and appreciating them for who they are.

  Respecting Individual Differences

  Astrology is not a science of Universal Truth—it is a study of our individuality. And although on the most profound level we are all One, when we incarnate on the planet we appear distinctly unique. In fact, a birthchart isn’t duplicated for 25,000 years!

  Astrology allows us to view one another objectively, without judgment or projection. The idea of astrology is not to try to “fit” another person into society’s picture of a desirable norm. Rather, it’s to gain, through the other person’s natal chart, a clear understanding of their individual adaptations and a sense of their own personal “style.” This includes their values, desires, what they need for fulfillment, the nature of their fears, and how they can most successfully rise above the obstacles they encounter—given their own unique internal wiring.

  In astrological counseling, I do not try to change the client’s style, but to assist them in expressing themselves authentically in ways that will bring them the positive results that they want to experience. Often this involves a personal re-evaluation in terms of being “on path” in addressing the particular issues they need to deal with in this lifetime. Being “on path” is also different for each individual, and is defined by the sign and house placement of the North Node—along with any relevant aspects. Since we have free will, we can resist being “on path” and the required growth of character. And when we do, we inevitably experience difficulty in that sector of our lives. To experience success requires embracing that part of ourselves we have been resisting so we can come into the balance that is needed to create success in the material world.